Image by Chris Daniels

Image by Chris Daniels

Stop telling women what they can and cannot,

should and should not,

do with their bodies.

Teach them about the worth

and value

of their bodies.

Teach men about the worth

and value

of our bodies.

Speak of intimacy.

Speak of connection.

Just speak about sex

at all.

Stop misinterpreting a myth

to say that it was the naked body

of a woman

that caused the downfall of all

of humankind.

Stop taking that myth literally in the first place, and

start prioritizing pleasure.

Stop telling women what to wear.

Start telling men not to rape.

Keep telling men not to rape.

Tell them again.

And tell them again.

Then tell them again,

and again,

and again,

and again,

and then one more time again

because they still don't seem to fucking get it.

Stop circulating the lie

that it's a virtue for a man

to make the decision to not be alone with a woman.

Stop telling men to "guard women's hearts"

as if they own something that is not theirs.

Stop telling fathers their daughters' "virginity" is their responsibility

as if they own something that is not theirs.

Start telling girls the Good News

that there's no such fucking thing

as "virginity" in the first place.

Talk about autonomy.

Talk about respect.

Talk about consent.

Name our anatomy appropriately.

Call it a vulva.

Call it a clitoris.

Talk about the clitoris.

JUST. SAY. THE. WORD. CLITORIS.

Stop telling homosapiens

that anything other than

heterosexual,

married

sex is "unnatural".

Read a goddamn biology book

so you can learn

how to properly define "natural" sex

in the first place.

Circle back one more time

and remember

that you still have to teach men not to rape.

Tell women their bodies are not the problem.

Stop asking what she was wearing.

Stop asking what she was drinking.

Stop saying anything other than, "I believe you."

Stop telling women they're less "sexual" than men.

Stop telling women they're less "visual" than men.

Stop telling women that men only want one thing.

Stop telling men that men only want one thing.

Stop assuming that men only want women

and women only want men.

And while you're at it,

stop assuming there are only "men" and "women" around to want one another in the first place.

Stop confusing sex and gender.

Stop pretending that either exist in a binary

because science disagrees with you

no matter what it is you think some Snake said.

Stop teaching women that their virtue

is exclusively weighed

by whether or not their hymen is intact.

Get rid of abstinence only "education".

Start having conversations about intimacy,

connection,

and powerful communication.

Start telling teenagers

that their sex drives are normal,

and then teach them again

about autonomy,

respect,

and consent.

Stop using metaphors for women's sexuality

like plucked flowers,

damaged cans,

chewed gum,

crumpled paper,

and cows.

Stop telling women than men can’t be trusted.

Stop telling men that men can't be trusted.

Stop telling men that women can't be trusted.

Stop telling women that women can't be trusted.

Stop telling women that they can't trust themselves.

Stop telling anyone,

ever,

anywhere

that sex is dirty,

and start teaching them about the possibilities

of everything it can and could mean to them

physically,

mentally,

emotionally,

and spiritually

when treated like the

incredible,

embodied

erotic experience

it has evolved itself into being.